…You are free.”
As well as deciding what is in your best interest the mind will also decide what is potentially harmful to you, again it will do this by your past experiences.
If you have been physically hurt it will stop you entering the same situation again, hence the phrase ‘once bitten, twice shy.
There may be several reasons why something is deemed bad for you, in this case the mind will make you afraid of it, in doing this it will keep you away form the danger and you won’t get hurt.
In very extreme cases you will develop a phobia, a deep irrational fear against whatever it thinks is that is bad for you, in order to protect yourself.
Sometimes a series of nondescript memories can create an intensified feeling when your mind associates them together. All the tags add up and create a unique emotion. That train journey will feel different to each and every passenger, because they all have their own individual memories and experiences.
What would your journey be like?
… no good in a bed, but fine up against a wall.“ Eleanor Roosevelt
Sometimes words and phrases have more than one meaning, this can be amusing in everyday day life but the mind thinks logically and literally, when it takes a memory it will store it and tag it. An event that involved a train journey and happy news could evoke happy thoughts on the next trip, but what if you’ve had a bad experience?
When the mind stores memories it thinks logically and literally, in doing so it may start to associate things, which are totally unrelated, with each other.
For instance, in the early stages of a relationship a couple may give each other gifts for no reason other than “I saw this and thought you’d like it”. The mind then sees these gifts as a mark of affection and will associate ‘gift’ with ‘affection’. So what happens when the gifts stop? Does this mean that the affection is no longer there?
Deep inside the recesses of your mind your memories are stored, all the ones you can recall plus many more that you can’t.
Your unconscious mind will allow you to recall your memories as it sees fit, as your protector it may withhold access on any that may cause you any distress. People who have suffered a trauma, such as a violent attack or disaster, may have what is referred to as dissociative amnesia where a memory is suppressed. This can be temporary, the memory coming back in small stages, giving you time to overcome the event in parts. For some the amnesia will be permanent, the mind will keep the memory blocked to ensure that no further distress will come of it.
It is easy to see why the mind will protect you from the memory of such traumas but what about more innocent memories, tomorrow we’ll investigate.
Our fears are a part of us, they reflect something from deep with in, but where do they come from?
The unconscious mind will collate all the information it has on a subject and decide whether it is in your best interests, this can come from anywhere, something you have seen, heard, experienced or been told directly or indirectly. It will take into account the actions and behaviours of your peers, news stories and overheard conversations. You will not recall many of the facts that it has stored which is why you can have a complete lack of understanding of your fears.
So what does the mind do with this information? Tomorrow we’ll start to look deep inside.