You got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em,

Know when to walk away, know when to run.

Taken from The Gambler, sung by Kenny Rogers, written by Don Schlitz, country and Western songs are usually very philosophical and this is no exception.

Often we amble through life in the same way, doing the same things, not much wrong with that if it makes you happy, but what if you’re stuck in a rut?  What if you you want to walk a different route?  Maybe your life is so cluttered you can’t see the wood for the trees.

So what do you hold, and what do you fold?  If you feel like having a de-clutter how do you decide?  Think about when you last used them, what purpose do they serve, do they still fit into your life?

When do you walk and when do you run?  What is it you want to move away from, again, think about the purpose and how it fits into your life.

If you feel the need, why not start with one small thing and see how you go?



Has communication killed the art of conversation?

30 years ago if you wanted to communicate with someone you could write them a letter, call them on the telephone or talk to them face to face.  Since then technology has come a long way, we can email, text, post, tweet, to name but a few.  We can cross the boundaries of time, language and distance, but with all these forms of communication at our fingertips, has conversation paid the price?

These day we see groups of people huddled together, but they’re not talking to each other, the air is filled with technological beeps and the silence of concentration where they’re on their phone, texting, tweeting, emailing, posting or playing games.

30 years ago you couldn’t wait to meet up with friends and and have a good chat and catch up, these days you don’t need to wait, you can post it all on social media or put it in a blog like this one.

Using technology is a great way of getting the word out there to a wider audience but don’t forget to talk to the smaller one.

Time and Tide Waits for No Man, Proverb

Man, however, waits for anything, not just time or tide, we wait for people, development, openings, closings, food, releases, buses, the list is possibly infinite.

What ever happens time and tide keep moving at exactly the same pace, never changing, always constant, never waiting.

 So do we wait unnecessarily?  And what are we waiting for?
Many things we cannot control, some run on timetables for the masses or may take time to develop.  But what waiting can we control?  Is there a way of getting up and meeting things half way?  Can we take steps to make things happen when we want it?
Don’t wait if you don’t have to.
Get up, get out and live your life, on your timetable.

Slow down, you move too fast, you got to make the morning last. Simon & Garfunkel

A very clear message, but how many people will?

We live in an instantaneous world, we can eat fast food, drive fast cars, we are encouraged to be in the fast track and pay extra not to queue.  How many times have you seen a curved footpath and a dirt track walked in where people have cutoff the corner?  I often wonder what they managed to do with the few seconds of life that action has saved them.  We get agitated when we have to queue or wait and feel like we are waisting time, we think could be packing even more into our already busy lives.

Is that good?  Could we get more from life by doing less?  Could we learn to appreciate the things we have, rather than covet the things we don’t.  If we buy less, will we have more time to spend.  We could learn to live, rather than be alive.

The end of the song is a brilliant mantra – Life, I love you.  All is groovy.

That’s something we should all be saying.

Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right. Henry Ford

The Law of Attraction states that your thoughts are granted, if you think of something you don’t want to happen, chances are it will because that is where your focus is.  It is a true advocate of positive thinking.

So, how can we relate that to logic for the sceptics among us?

It is widely respected that a positive mental attitude (PMA) will only do good, doctors agree that it will aid recovery, sports men and women say they need it to win and, go on, be honest, don’t you feel good when you’re happy?  By focusing on what you want and being positive the unconscious mind will direct your body and conscious mind into actions that will bring you closer to your goal.

A couple of years ago I had a spotty face, every time I looked in the mirror I thought about the spots, as soon as one went another one came.  As an experiment I decided to change my thoughts, from that point I only thought of myself having beautiful clear skin.  by the end of the week there was only the tail end of one or two left.  I had been given the focus of my thoughts.

Why not try it yourself?

If you are overweight, think thin.

If you are in debt, think wealth.

What have you got to loose?

There is no greater leaning curve than failure.

‘Tis a lesson you should heed:

Try, try, try again.

If at first you don’r succeed,

Try, try, try again.

This proverb, made popular by William Edward Hickson, can be traced back to the writings of Thomas H Palmer.

Failure is not nice, in any sense of the word, but it is something we can use in a positive way.  When we succeed, we will have learnt how to do something in a way that works, once the aim has been achieved we no longer have to consider other options, we can move on.

But when we fail, the thinking cap goes on, we look at what caused the failure, what we can do differently, how can we make it better, in sort we don’t give up.

So what can happen when you don’t give up?

Walt Disney didn’t give up when he, ran out of money when making Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.

Colonel Sanders’ chicken was rejected by 1005 restaurants, but he didn’t give up.

At Fred Astairs first screen test he was told “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald, can dance a little”. Did he give up?

Thomas Edison’s teachers told him he was “too stupid to learn anything”.  He didn’t give up either.

So what will make you try, try, try again today?

It’s not the choice that matters when making a decision, it’s the attitude behind it.

People often agonise over making a decision, ‘what is the best way?’  ‘What it I’m wrong?’ ‘How can I choose?’  Of course some decisions carry a higher degree of magnitude, you would probably give more time to deciding on a career change than you would to how many biscuits to have with a cup of tea.  Or would you?

A change in career is a huge step, but what if your job was at risk of redundancy?  What if you did not enjoy you job and an opportunity arose to follow your dream?  Would the choice be easier?

And how many biscuits should you have with a cup of tea? (I say 3, 2 and I’ll go back for more, 4 and I’ll feel like a pig.) But what if I was diabetic or had some other issues?  Would things be more straight forward.

When faced with a difficult decision stand back and look at the bigger picture, what is the best interests for your greater good?

You ponder, I’ll pop the kettle on……